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Ep. 191 Healing Sexual Trauma with Sinead Cracknell

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In this episode, we discuss:

  • Breaking down the term sexual trauma + understanding how the body stores it
  • How to come back into your body post-sexual trauma
  • The power of 5, 7, and 12D energy healing
  • The normalization of anger and celebration of sacred rage

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You know, the whole ‘Me Too Movement‘, it was incredible when it took place, but it was coming from people that are perhaps influencers or celebrities or people that are really well known whereas I’m not at this stage. I’m not. So I want to come at it from that level. I’m a person that you can relate to and talk about it because me too. Firstly, me too. I’ve been there, but I want to make it relatable and take that stigma away and almost, I mentioned the word normalize earlier, but actually, let’s normalize it because this shit is happening all the time.

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Welcome back my loves. Before we dive into today’s episode, I feel it is really important to do a short disclaimer and trigger warning. Inside of today’s conversation, we will be discussing things like anxiety, addiction, depression, sexual trauma, and suicide. So if for any reason, this is not in alignment with your soul or just not the day to listen to this episode, then please, by all means, press pause, exit now, otherwise, I invite you to stay with us.

My guest today is Sinead Cracknell and she is an intuitive soul elevation coach and 5/7D energy healer who helps people overcome deep trauma, breakthrough fears of limitations, and step into their soul purpose. She helps us reactivate self-sovereignty so that you can lead an empowered life after trauma. Today’s conversation, in my opinion, is an empowering one. Sinead allows us to see the roots of our trauma, the differences between 3D, 4D, 5D, 7D healing, and her unique approach to healing sexual trauma, more specifically beyond talk therapy and including the safety and the connection and the systems that really allow you to shift your identity and heal. So I invite you to cozy up, get comfortable, and get ready to experience the soul healing magic that is Sinead.

Sarah: Sinead, welcome to the show. I am so delighted to finally have you here.

Sinead: Thank you for inviting me on. It’s such a pleasure to meet you, Sarah. You are so well known in this space and I’m honored to be here.

Sarah: Mm, I appreciate that so much and I’m just really excited to hear more about you and get to know you better today. And I’d love to start by talking a little bit about your approach to healing sexual trauma. And one of the things that I saw you post about somewhere in your Instagram feed was that sexual trauma is more than just the big things that we first think about. So I’d love to open with just talking about the ways in which you work with women and some of the things maybe they’ve been through that leads them to working with you.

Breaking down the term sexual trauma + understanding how the body stores it

Sinead: Starting with a big topic, I love it. Okay. I think sexual trauma is very misunderstood in a lot of ways, and that it, as you said, it isn’t just the big things that may happen to us; so physical abuse. It can be the little things too that we may disregard and just put down as, oh, it’s just one of those things and this is just how things are these days. So when I say that, I’m relating to catcalling or the occasional uninvited dick pic that you might get through a dating app or even on social media. So it really is a case of anything that makes you feel violated in any way, shape, or form. And the thing also is that sometimes we don’t actually recognize when we have been violated, and this is where this normalizing this kind of behavior comes in.

So in terms of sexual trauma, it’s very complex, it’s very nuanced, and there are, from what I’ve observed and witnessed, there are a whole spectrum of things that could potentially have happened, or are happening, or whatever that may look like for you. So we’re looking at physical, we’re looking at non-physical, and we’re looking at other. So we’re looking at religious shaming or dogma or even Disney programming, or even being involved in toxic relationships where at the time you may not have seen it as a toxic relationship, but in hindsight, that’s exactly what it was. So even that interaction of having sex with somebody who was toxic for you or vice versa, that can potentially have sexual trauma attached to it. So as I said, it’s so complex. So when people are investigating or exploring this term, I would invite you to not rule anything out.

And I also believe that if you do feel that you have experienced any form of sexual trauma, then you probably have, regardless of whether you can remember it or not, or whether you can label it as that or not. I believe that every single woman walking this earth right now has experienced it in some way or another, whether that be in their present life or in past lives, and have had it, that trauma handed down through the ancestral line from their mothers through their mothers, that kind of thing. So it’s all-encompassing. It’s not just rape, or sexual abuse, or intimate partner violence, or anything like that. It’s everything…it’s everything. And the reason I speak about it and I work with women through this is because I want to try and break that stigma of speaking out on this particular subject. Because so many of us are ashamed and we blame ourselves, but it’s like it’s a very taboo subject. Even the words themselves, that phrase ‘sexual trauma’, a lot of people won’t ever say that phrase, won’t say those words because it brings up that fear, that shame that, you know, just oh my God, is that really what happened? Or is that really what that is that I’m carrying around with me? Because it’s not spoken about enough.

And I actually had a conversation with somebody about this earlier on today and it’s like the whole ‘Me Too Movement‘. It was incredible when it took place, but it was coming from people that are perhaps influencers or celebrities or people that are really well known whereas I’m not at this stage. I’m not. So I want to come at it from that level. I’m a person that you can relate to and talk about it because me too. Firstly, me too. I’ve been there, but I want to make it relatable and take that stigma away and almost, I’d mentioned the word normalize earlier, but actually, let’s normalize it because this shit is happening all the time.

Sarah: As you’re speaking, I don’t know why I didn’t even think of this before preparing to talk to you today, but I’m sitting over here going, wow, I’ve experienced this as well, and the sexual trauma, some sexual assault. And it’s not something that I told my family about for a long time. Eventually, I finally told them, but it was something that I felt like I had to really bury down and keep private. Because, like you said, there is this level of shame definitely and some embarrassment that like, how could I have let this happen? And I’ve spoken a little bit about it on social media and I’ve shared that there was a man who, for three years, stalked me and we had sex once. And then it became a very, very toxic, I don’t even know if I would call it relationship. It was more just he found me across the country and it was really frightening, it was very scary, and we had to get the police involved.

And I’m just sitting here and listening to you and going, wow, I haven’t even allowed myself to talk about that in such a long time. And after the fact, I noticed that there was a lot that my body held onto from that encounter and specifically yoni, womb space, vagina. And so, I’m really curious what your thoughts are or what your experience is in how our bodies hold onto some of these encounters, experiences, trauma that we’ve been through.

How to come back into your body post-sexual trauma

Sinead: Firstly, I just want to acknowledge everything that you’ve shared with me. I truly appreciate that and I just want to share that with you. So thank you. In terms of how we hold onto it in our bodies, again, this is so nuanced. There are so many different levels and layers to this. But in terms of if we do think about the yoni, the cervix, the vagina, we also then have to think about our throats and the way we show up in the world. Because if you actually look at the biological structure of the cervix, it’s very, very similar if not the same as the throat. So in terms of showing up in the world, expressing your truth, expressing what has happened to you in the past or is still happening to you now, if you feel that you cannot do that, then that’s the trauma that’s being, because they’re both connected, through different parts of the meridians in our body.

So that trauma is still there in your cervix. That trauma is still there that needs to be observed and explored. Because if you’re not able to speak freely, that’s how that connects. It also connects to the divine as well. So if you are getting mixed messages in terms of intuition and not being able to follow your gut instinct and things like that, that all connects. So they’re a few of the ways that this can show up for you in terms of physical, but also energy body. But if you are stricken with fear or you feel unsafe in certain situations or even in your partnership, if you don’t feel comfortable to express your desires or you feel uncomfortable in receiving and it’s always about giving, there’s something there as well that needs to be explored.

So in terms of the physical body, there are so many ways that this could show up for you, but there is also, I mean, another part of it is as well is that it’s very much related to pelvic health. So endometriosis, fibroids, all of those different things is that this is where the trauma will be showing up for you. If it’s something that’s so repressed and you have never explored it, then you can be, I don’t want to say this is written in stone, but it’s going to show up for you eventually as some form of a physical dis-ease if you don’t deal with it. And that could be thyroid, that could be throat, it could be pelvic health, it could be a number of things. But if you’re observing your behaviors where you feel that you can’t speak your truth, you feel held back in many ways, you find it difficult to express anger or rage, or even your emotions, this is how it can show up as well.

So to narrow it down and give you some idea of how complex this is, it’s really difficult to do that in a few minutes, but hopefully, I’ve given you an idea of the different ways it can show up. And as I said, there are so many ways it can show up. Even just the case of for me, it showed up in the way I viewed my body. You know, body image, my pleasure practice, the way I would put myself into situations with men, and partnerships where I would have to be the giver because to receive, it felt too vulnerable. It made me feel so unsafe that I just, I couldn’t do that. But the only way that I could do that is if I was doing something to take me out of my body; so drinking or drugs or whatever it was. So it’s very much any trauma, a lot of trauma has the capacity to take you out of your body. So it’s about bringing your awareness back into your body. And that’s generally how I would work with women through this to overcome and heal that is creating and establishing that sense of safety first within your internal environment and your external. And sometimes we need that external environment to be the safe space first before we can create it from within.

Sarah: Yes, you’re so right that every person obviously has their own individual experience, but then also the way in which their body may hold onto whether it’s physical, energetic, spiritual symptoms can be totally different. With the situation I was talking about, I noticed that in the aftermath of it and before I had really healed any of it, which was before I got into any of this work too, I just completely lost my sex drive. It just plummeted because I just didn’t want to even connect to that part of my body anymore. And I also noticed that my skin broke out. And I think there was several things going on with that, but it was this person I met through the yoga studio and it was like I didn’t want to be seen. It’s like I wanted to just hide. And so, I had all this acne that was breaking out and it was my way of hiding and like I don’t want to be seen as beautiful, I don’t want to be seen as pretty, I don’t want to have any attention coming my way.

And then another thing I noticed, and again, this had been going on for other periods of my life but it flared up in the aftermath of that situation was my jaw. And like you said, the throat and the vaginal canal mirror each other and it’s so fascinating, this vocal vaginal connection. But for me, it was like this tension that was just so tight in my jaw just like clenching my teeth and just holding onto a lot of fear and to a lot of tightness, almost like closing the world out and not wanting to open my voice. And I was just thinking about another situation that I haven’t talked too much about, but it was a toxic relationship essentially. And that one affected me in a different way where this man that I was seeing was suicidal and that was his emotional, manipulative way of also keeping me in the relationship, of threatening whenever I wanted to leave a toxic situation. And so, in that case, it was sort of behavioral in the way that it affected me, where it was like, oh my gosh, I have to mother everybody. I have to take care of the world. I need to nurture. I need everyone to be safe and healthy and be the fixer of everyone.

So I can see, in my personal experience, how those symptoms have been different based on the situation. And you mentioned something that I align with as well, which is that in order to really do the healing, you invite women to come back into their body. Trauma can take us out of our body for survival reasons, right? But how do we start coming back home to ourself? How do we start getting back into our body? Are there certain ways you do that or you encourage it so that we can start to even pinpoint why some of these things are happening or symptoms that are showing up in our life?

Sinead: Before I answer that question, I just want to circle back slightly to what you said about the acne and the skin and everything like that. For me, the way it showed up is that I don’t want to be seen. And the way that I was coping with that was by eating; so putting on those layers of protection in body weight, hiding myself, not wanting to be beautiful, not wanting to be seen or noticed. And I felt that the more weight I put on, the less likely people are going to see me. For me, it was like, I don’t want to be seen, but actually I want to be bigger so you do see me. It’s the same kind of a different perspective, but at the same time, the same thing. So it was really polarized. Coming back to your question about how do I guide women to come home to themselves essentially, and for me, I feel that one of the most important things to be able to even contemplate doing that is to find somebody that you trust that you have a connection with.

Trauma is created through connection so, therefore; my opinion is that it needs to be healed through connection as well. The way in which I would support women is to create that trust and that safety within the space that we are in together as a community. And when you feel that you’re safe on the outside, because primarily when we go through trauma, we are looking for everything outside of ourselves first, that’s what we do. We want validation, we want acceptance, we want other people to make us feel better because we don’t believe that we have the ability to do that for ourselves because that’s been stolen from us at some point in our lives.

So before we even get back into the home space, let’s create a home space outside of us. So it’s about building that trust and that connection and just breaking down the barriers of speaking, me sharing my story with other women, or guiding them through meditations or breathwork, or any of those things that really calm the nervous system so they get used to and create habits in doing that, to get used to what that feels like in the external, which then allows them to bring that to the internal and from within. So if they feel that they can trust somebody enough to allow them to guide them, then eventually that trust and that safety will be created from within. But I believe that safety and trust are like a byproduct of one another. Let’s create the connection, let’s create that trust and safety between us, and now I’ll empower you to reactivate your sovereignty to create that for yourself and show you what that can look like for you. That’s where that journey begins; that journey coming back home.

Sarah: Yes. So I’m curious about maybe more conventional talk therapy because we did talk about how there’s this vocal vaginal connection and using your voice is an important part of the healing. But do you feel like that’s maybe where talk therapy falls a little bit short in that there may not be emphasis on either the safety, or the trust, or the body, the sematic part?

Sinead: Yes, absolutely, I do. I think talk therapy is very much top-down. So we’re talking from the mind when actually we should be looking at both ends, so bottom-up and top-down. So the bottom up would be the body parts, the somatics, and things like that. And this is why I was actually training to be a therapist. And what I recognized is that just speaking alone, as beneficial as it was, it wasn’t getting me to where I needed to go in terms of healing trauma. From some perspectives, it was almost as if it was keeping me in disassociation because I was up here in my head and I’m cognitive, whereas trauma happens in the body. It gets stored in the body. So we must engage the body to be able to heal it.

Sarah: Yes. One of the things I was eventually led to and I’m really grateful for it in my healing process, specifically with some of the well, low sex drive but also just feeling disconnected to my vagina, my yoni was using a rose quartz crystal wand and going through and doing a womb healing meditation while at the same time using the trigger point on the wand to be able to press into areas around the cervix to literally release physical tension. And by releasing the physical tension, I was able to release some of the emotion that was really stored in that area of my body that I was not touching and was not connecting to. And that was one example of how I was able to literally go in into my body. And it was uncomfortable, let me tell you. I was like, oh my God. It’s not pleasurable. It was more just like ‘ahh’ breathing through it and sitting with myself and touching/using the crystal wand to touch a part of my body that like, oh, I had disowned in many ways.

Are there other practices like that that any woman can start to do? But like you said about safety, I feel like a huge component to jumping into any practice is making sure that you’re really in a safe space or you’re guided through something like that. What do you think?

Sinead: I agree with you. I really agree with you and I can actually sense stuff coming up for you as we’re talking about this. So I really do appreciate you being so vulnerable and honest about everything. I feel that this is something that you must be in a safe space to be able to explore. I myself use a jade egg for my yoni practice and I have found that that is milder than perhaps the rose quartz in terms of energy. And if you have any wounding around penetration as well, you have to be really, really careful in terms of, I mean, what we’re saying now is like, please only do this if you have been guided to do this, if you feel that you’re in a safe space to be able to do this. Don’t just go out and do this willy-nilly. This is almost ritualistic and has to be done. You know, even before you get to that point, it’s like let’s talk about safety, but also let’s talk about what a yes and a no feels like for your body, for your vagina. And it’s almost like there are many steps before we get to that step.

Sarah: Yes, that’s a really good point. And I noticed, well, first of all, it’s also, I feel like it’s an invitation to really trust yourself too and know when you’re ready for what. And then, like you said, knowing the ‘yeses’ and the ‘nos’, like is my body ready for this? Yes or no? Because it might not be yet. And where can I go and re-establish some more safety first if that’s where my intuition is guiding me? And I think you made an important point before too though, which is the connection to our intuition and whether we even trust that anymore and because of the trauma; so re-establishing even a relationship to your intuition. So obviously there’s many layers and many components to each person’s kind of what step they’re at in the process, not that there’s just specific steps, but that each person’s going to have their own steps and the pace in which you go through them is going to be totally different.

I’m curious about emotions that come up as well and I think that’s probably a huge part of the healing process and maybe it’s one of those steps for people, and particularly anger. So I’m really curious what your thoughts and your experience are with this really sacred rage, this anger coming up around the experiences that women have been through the way that they’ve potentially been treated, and what meaning do we give to this anger? How do we work through this anger?

The normalization of anger and celebration of sacred rage

Sinead: Firstly, anger is a part of us and it’s a beautiful part of us. And it’s the part that I feel that as women, we should accept more instead of being afraid of it. And anger here is, firstly, there’s the story of well, anger and how that was displayed and portrayed to you as you were growing up or in your everyday life, and also, was anger involved in any sexual trauma incidents? So this, again, it’s very nuanced. And I have found that many women struggle to express anger because they feel that it is wrong, or it’s going to come really aggressive, or they’ve witnessed people doing certain things to express their anger. And anger isn’t necessarily being shown to be expressed in a healthy way from, I don’t know, movies to home life to whatever that is. So often anger is never portrayed to be expressed in a healthy way. So it’s like, well, I don’t want to go there. I don’t want to feel angry. I don’t want to express that rage, that sacred rage as you called it. So we don’t. So we push it down and then it’ll come out in different ways. So that is actually part of how I work with women is to explore those stories.

And again, this is linked to the safety piece. It’s like, if you don’t feel safe enough to talk about your experiences, whatever they may look like for you, then it’s a possibility that you will not feel safe enough to express your anger. But as I said, expressing anger is part of who we are. It’s part of the emotions, the myriad of emotions that we get to express. And just because it may not have been portrayed to you as a healthy form of expression, it doesn’t mean that it can’t be. And this is the other thing is that it doesn’t necessarily have to be the same for each individual. Some people find that they find it really helpful to scream into pillows, other people prefer to dance, other people prefer to climb mountains. Whatever which way it is for you, it’s very individual. So it’s like what works for you, let’s explore that. Here are some examples, but let’s explore what works for you as a healthy expression of anger.

Sarah: I’m so glad we’re talking about this because I find, at least in the community of women that I work with, that there’s often repressed anger, sexual trauma or not. Just in general even, a lot of repressed anger. And I’m somebody who if you asked me 10 years ago if I was angry, I’d be like, oh, I never get angry. I’m chill. I am so cool. And little did I…I mean, I was just completely unaware at the time but I was so angry, but I pushed it down, I repressed it, and I made myself okay with everything. Oh, this happened; oh, that’s cool. Yes, don’t worry about it, you know? Because I wanted to be seen in a certain way. And I wanted that approval, I wanted the love, I wanted the acceptance, and I thought that anger was something that would get me pushed out of the group or my family, not loved or disowned.

And so, gosh, it’s been challenging to figure out what that expression of anger looks like in my body and how does it want to be expressed? And I love that you brought up that we don’t have a lot of examples of healthy expression of anger because I think if we had more, that maybe we would realize that. I see anger as part of the divine feminine. Yes, I think it’s women who repress their anger the most. Because the divine feminine is not just this fragile, gentle, you know? She’s also wild and rageful and emotional and has this fierceness to her. And so, that anger, I just invite everyone listening to consider what you’ve just shared around what does anger look like in my body? And maybe it’s there and I don’t even realize it. Maybe there is some repressed anger. Can we start to talk to it? Can we start to release it? Can we start to bring it out? Because I can imagine that, and this was my experience, at least in situations of sexual trauma, it’s easy for there to be a lot of anger that’s been held onto around what has happened to you.

Sinead: And I think also, as you were saying that, what’s coming through for me is that in the spiritual world as well is that we always talk about triggers. So when people trigger us and we feel this anger, we automatically look to ourselves, well, anybody who’s kind of spiritually, I guess, evolutionized kind of look to ourselves, okay, what is this about me? What is this about me that’s bringing up these emotions? What are they triggering in me? You know, this is all about me and blah, blah, blah. So, therefore, it’s like we don’t allow ourselves to express this anger freely. We get triggered and we go, well, we can’t express the anger because actually, this issue is about me as a person. So I was like, well, no, not really. You are still allowed to express your anger. If someone’s pissed you off and you’re angry, express it.

And as you said, where in your body are you feeling that? What sensations are you feeling? What color is the anger? Can you use visualization techniques to dissipate that energy of anger? What can you do to express that anger in a healthy way? And yes, you’re absolutely right, the divine feminine. We are wild women, we are here to express every single emotion that we feel, and that is part of being a woman. It’s not just for men. Anger is not just for men.

Sarah: Amen.

Sinead: So get angry. But at the same time, I feel that anger and passion are so closely connected as well.

Sarah: Yes. Yes. And that’s where sacred rage or holy rage, those terms come up for me. I think of the mother, who in a fit of rage, is doing something to save her child’s life because she is so passionate, because she’s so overflowing with love. And that to me is just this potent, powerful, beautiful rage and anger. Not that the other isn’t, but it’s like, I think anger can be an expression of love, I guess.

Sinead: And I think that maybe it’s an expression of suppressed love for ourselves.

Sarah: Mmm. Wow, yes, I never considered that. That’s powerful as well. I’m digesting that right now like hmm, yes, love for ourselves.

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The power of 5, 7, and 12D energy healing

Sarah: When we start to do the emotional healing, the physical healing, all these different layers, one of the techniques that you use is 5D, 7D energy healing. And I think you mentioned in the beginning, it’s like at this point, we know it works and we don’t have to put a name to it, but I would love to talk a little bit about what is the difference between trying to heal maybe like in the 3D versus bringing in some of the 5 to 7D healing into our bodies?

Sinead: In terms of where we’re at as a collective, we are leaning into the first dimension in terms of frequency and in terms of the frequency of the planet. So, therefore, energy healing that’s vibrating on third density is, the way I see it, is that it will work, but it will not be enough to sustain changes. And also, so we’re looking at higher frequency levels of energy which have the ability to penetrate the energy body at a much quicker rate and go a lot deeper. So we’re going right into the cells, into the DNA, into the energy body. In terms of fifth, seventh, to be honest, I’m generally using seventh and above. What’s coming through for me now is actually 12th. And I can’t put a name on it, but I do know that it’s super powerful. I know that because I’m being guided not to do it more than 20 minutes on an individual basis.

And in terms of how it helps; so firstly, energy healing allows to bring anything that’s in the unconscious subconscious up into the conscious awareness for you to be able to navigate, inhale, and release it. But in terms of the energy body, everything is energy. Even the energy of what you’ve been through, trauma, it’s all energy in the body. The body is energy. So, therefore, this part of the process for me, in my own experience, has been absolutely pivotal and key for me to be able to heal. And therefore, I’m bringing that into the equation when I’m helping and working with other women through that because it allows them to release shame that’s stored. The energy of shame, the energy of fear, the energy of guilt, or whatever it is, it all gets stored in the body and that’s where the energy healing comes in. But as I said, in terms of the frequency, my opinion is that 3D energy healing, not going to say the name…okay, fuck it, Reiki…I think that that’s slowly going to die. I think that where we’re at and where we are heading, we’re looking at anything from five up, 5D up.

Sarah: So I’m also curious because I think when people sometimes book whatever type of energy healing session, there can be a tendency to go into it thinking this is just going to be done to me. And I’d love your thoughts on ‘do to’ versus ‘do with’ process.

Sinead: Okay. That’s a really interesting question. I’m trying to think of the words. Well, first of all, what are your intentions for having an energy healing session in the first place? Because if you’re looking to get rescued or for somebody to actually take everything away from you to make your life a lot easier, forget it. That’s not the way anything works; with energy healing, with coaching, with anything like that. So in terms of I’m going to an energy healer for a session because…well, what is it because? What are your intentions? What are you hoping to release? What are you hoping to work on? What are you hoping to gain? And that’s where you work with the energy healer. And again, it comes back to that trust and safety piece. It’s because if you don’t feel safe with that energy healer, you’re not going to be as open to receiving what you are supposed to receive in that moment.

So in terms of working with an energy healer, it is very much about let’s discuss what your intentions are because then we can simultaneously work together to co-create that for you. You set your intentions and I will solidify your intentions by creating my intentions the same as yours for you. So we work together and we create whatever magic is supposed to transpire, but at the same time, don’t expect to have that done in one session. Yes, it can be a miraculously magical experience and there are many people who have transformed their lives in one session, but it’s not the same for everybody, especially if you’ve never had energy healing before in your life, if you’ve never worked with your own energy, if you’ve never even considered your own energy at any point in your life. So it’s just about being open-minded and understanding that this is a co-creation.

Sarah: Mm-hmm. I totally agree and feel that intention plays a huge part in the process and willingness to be open, to be worked on, and safety. Like you said, the safety of the space can impact the outcome of any energy healing that somebody may ask to receive. I just did a episode not long ago on ethics and energy medicine as well, and obviously, consent is a crucial component to any energy healing as well.

Sinead: Yes. Seriously being discerning about the healer that you choose to work with, but have they worked on their own shit?

Sarah: Yes.

Sinead: Where are they coming from?

Sarah: And I think that’s where we get to really trust our intuition as we do reconnect to it as well if there’s been kind of a disconnection because of trauma. It’s like I’ve even had good friends recommend me to somebody who, for them, it was wonderful, and for me, it just didn’t feel like the right fit. Like just didn’t quite have the same vibe. And I think we get to trust our guts and we get to trust ourselves in choosing who we work with, whether it’s an intuitive yes-no feeling in our body, or maybe sussing out a little bit more about what this person stands for, what are their values? What are their ethical principles? What style do they use? And are you informed on even what you’re going to be experiencing in a session so nothing comes as a surprise as well?

Sinead: Yes, absolutely. It really comes down to that connection as well. If you feel that you have a connection, regardless of whether you have an explanation of what that connection is, if you feel it, then trust it. Because anything to follow will be either a blessing or a lesson.

Sarah: Yes. Well, and it circles back to what you said in the beginning too. It’s like how do we start to heal sexual trauma is through connection. So even that connection of saying yes in the first place is part of the healing process, which I hadn’t even considered before. So, oh, this is such powerful work and something I think that exists a lot in the world. And you also opened with telling us about how sexual trauma is not just the big things that you would first think of. That there’s nuance and there are many layers to it and obviously I think it’s become obvious that the healing is also really individualized as well as far as how we do overcome or transmute energy, integrate energy, find some of the lessons and learnings if they’re there. Is there anything else that’s on your heart today that you feel like you want to leave listeners with?

Sinead: You’re not alone and you don’t have to be alone.

Sarah: I’m pausing as well just to let everyone really hear that…like really, really hear that. ‘Ahh’, Sinead, thank you so much for being here. Is there anything else that you want to invite people to do as far as after listening to this conversation, ways to reach out to you, to work with you, or even just where to be looking as far as finding that connection as part of the healing process?

Sinead: I mean, I’m all over Instagram and my DMs are always open for anybody who would like to reach out to me on Instagram. I will be facilitating a group coaching program launching in October for women who have experienced any form of sexual trauma and there will be more information revealed around that time. But as I said, if you feel connected with anything that I’ve said, then please feel free to contact me. You aren’t alone and you don’t have to be alone and I am here. And if it takes a simple message to reach out to create that connection that helps you to heal in any way, shape, or form, I’m here. I’m here.

Sarah: Thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I appreciate everything you’ve brought today; your openness, your invitation to connect with people, and yes, your time. Thank you so much for being here.

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September 16, 2021

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