Ep.197 5 Years in Biz as an Empath & HSP - theuncensoredempath.com

Ep.197 5 Years in Biz as an Empath & HSP

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In this episode, I discuss:

  • The top 10 lessons Sarah has learned in 5 years of running her business
  • Intuitive intelligence and the power of finding your unique magic + mission
  • How to schedule flexibility + honor the seasons of your business
  • The importance of expansion and intentional nervous system support

Episode Transcript:

The Uncensored Empath is celebrating five years of business, baby. It has been quite a journey. We started out as a completely different brand and company and rebranded about two years into where we are today as the Uncensored Empath. I have launched dozens and dozens of courses offerings programs, and published almost two hundred podcast episodes, and worked with thousands of clients across the globe. It has truly been incredible and I’ve learned a lot, a lot. A lot. My business today is unrecognizable compared to what it started as. And so I want to take this opportunity to do some self-reflection and share with you some of the things that I have learned more specifically as an empath, an HSP, or a highly sensitive person. As somebody with a narrow divergent mind and sensory processing disorder. How I’ve been able to glean these lessons throughout the process and what they are, more specifically.

So I have ten little nuggets I want to share with you today. Feel free to take out your notebook. If you are an aspiring empath entrepreneur, current, or maybe you’re well seasoned, but still feel like there is room for improvement and for expansion to elevate yourself and to elevate your brand. These ten things have really stuck out to me as I was brainstorming what to share with you today, but also reflect on five years working for myself as somebody who feels things as big as somebody who is sensitive to external stimuli and has been able to put herself out there in front of big audiences and stages virtually, and in real life that have brought up different feelings and different energies because I am so sensitive to that which is in my external surrounding. Whether it’s a person or a place, or simply an energy and emotion or a physical sensation that I’m picking up on.

Intuitive intelligence and the power of finding your unique magic + mission

So the first thing, inarguably one of the most important things I want to share with you in this episode is intuitive intelligence. And what I mean by that is truly honoring who you are. What is your magic in your unique gift? Maybe multiple gifts. They are unique to you on this planet, and I encourage you to, if you haven’t already, uncover it,  unearth it and bring it to the surface, you can start there.

I’m hosting a class this week. It’s a psychic breathwork session community session where we’re going to be doing just that, peeling back the layers so you can understand what is so fucking beautiful about you, your intuition, and the unique channel that you have. When you open this channel, it is a portal to unique information that is meant to be delivered to be embodied, to be shared through you, your physical form, your voice, your energy, your heart.

So when we unlock our unique magic, that allows us in our business to stand out and to be a true embodiment of that mission, the mission that we are here to embark upon that we are committed to as entrepreneurs. When I first started five years ago, I was connected to my intuition. It was ultimately what allowed me and gave me the courage to leave my nine-to-five job and move into entrepreneurship. The intuition would not shut up, and so I finally said Okay, I’m going to answer yes to this call and I’m going to go for it. But what I had not discovered in the beginning of business, was how to utilize that intuition to figure out what was so magical and special about me as an individual, and instead I looked at what a lot of other people were doing. And I emulated what I thought was, or what I was seeing was successful for other spiritual entrepreneurs and empath entrepreneurs. Ultimately, that never lit my fire, that never stoked me. It never made me feel like this is it. This is what God put me on this planet to do. And that is the feeling that I want for you. I want you all to have that…

Is this is my thing, is this is my magic? This is my gift, and I’m so attuned to it, and in tune with myself that it gets to be the foundation of how I serve the world in entrepreneurship. So, if you have not already been guided or found your own way of uncovering your unique intuitive intelligence, that’s the first lesson I want to share with you. Once that information is on the table and you’ve fully received it your business. The trajectory of your business will change. It will change. It will take off in the way that you desire.

How to schedule flexibility + honor the seasons of your business

So let’s move into number two. Lesson number two is scheduling flexibility. So basically how you spend your time and how you spend your energy. When I first started five years ago, and even throughout each year, each month, it has continuously evolved and it’s then evolved again since I’ve entered motherhood because it’s had to. But what’s consistent is the flexibility. So I haven’t had clients on Mondays and Wednesdays for five years, and I haven’t said Okay, these are going to be my concentration days, or I’m going to create all this content in advance or anything like that. But instead, I’ve allowed myself to move through seasons and noticed where I want to be spending my time and energy, and what type of space I want to be filling my calendar.

So as I’ve entered the season of motherhood, it has looked like a lot fewer one-on-one clients in live calls. The one-on-one clients I do serve are more on a Voxer basis, because then when I’m out walking my daughter in this beautiful sunshine in Colorado, I can be talking to my clients while she’s in the stroller. It’s super accessible for me. It’s still high value for my clients. Knowing what time a day my daughter could be napping or not is super challenging right now. And so I have changed my schedule based on that.

Prior to motherhood, I was also playing with lots of different things, and adding in that ease and flexibility to my schedule. There were seasons of my business where I loved filling my calendar with one on one one hour calls and serving people on an individual level. And then I sort of dipped out of that season and was feeling super calllled into group work and being able to serve on a larger scale level. So I started filling my calendar in ways that felt supportive with groups here, groups there, talking about things, teaching on things that I loved, and leading people through life-changing experiences.

So it’s not that you need to schedule your life out, your workout, your life to work out in any certain way. My advice, the lesson that I learned in these past five years as somebody who is neurodivergent and an empath, and highly sensitive, is I need the space for flexibility to allow myself to move through seasons. We move through cycles. It has allowed me to move through cycles in a way that is intuitive and flowy. And it’s also within each week and within each day that I allow my intuition to guide me. As far as what I feel like doing day to day. There are certainly days when I need to do something that is not the most fun, like accounting and back stuff. For example, sometimes we make it fun, and other times it just needs to get done right. But for the most part, I’m allowing myself to move into what feels good throughout the day, because I have very intentionally created a flexible schedule.

You cannot and will not ever make everyone happy

Lesson number three is that you cannot and will not ever make everyone happy. You will not be the healer, coach, or mentor for everyone. Most of those people won’t ever even enter into your space, So it’s kind of a nonissue. Other people will enter into your space, and they’ll realize that maybe you aren’t for them, and then you might get some feedback. There might be some words, and this is where we really get to practice grounding our feet or roots into the earth, and standing firm in our integrity and who we are, so that we don’t mold and change or chameleon to other people’s expectations and desires of us.

In these thirty-plus containers that I have hosted and facilitated in the last five years, there have been raving, amazing testimonials and feedback. And then there has been the handful of people who I haven’t been able to make happy. One: my ego has had to find a resolution for that. Number two, I have had to very consciously not take feedback when something just simply wasn’t for somebody. I’ve had to not let that mold me. So what could happen is you receive feedback on something you did or way you did something, or the way you said something, or the way the program was structured to the length of a program, whatever it was. Based on that feedback, you change who you are because as the empath, we can mold ourselves very easily to other people’s energy.

We can start to fit into their box and it starts to feel really sticky, and crunchy in that box. If it’s based on everybody else’s expectations of you. Feedback is amazing. It can help you improve the experience that your Soulmate clients have within your spaces. So I always ask for feedback and testimonials, and I take some of the constructive criticism and I hear it. I listen to it. I feel it in my body, but the important piece here. The breakthrough here is don’t let that feedback or constructive criticism or haters or trolls get to you. Sometimes that happens too, they make you mold and change and shape shift into someone who you are not. You can’t make everybody happy. You are not put on this planet to be for every one.

So trust yourself, your gut instinct. Back up to number one, intuitive intelligence. I told you this can be one of the most important ones, because without that foundation that base of intuitive intelligence, and knowing the language, the texture, the flavor, the sound, the nuance of your intuition. Uniquely, it’s really hard to discern when all these things start to happen in business. You feel me.

Lesson number four is to hire mentors and a team as well. That makes your nervous system feel good. It’s not that a little trigger, a little kick in the ass here and there isn’t sometimes necessary and sometimes a good thing, because there have been coaches who have triggered me and invited me into new levels. Ego, death, shadow work all the things, and that has been beneficial.

But the people who have truly invited me into my power have been those who, when I’m in their energy, in their space, my nervous system is like.. Fuck. Yes, bring it on. Let’s do this. They see me not for my shadow, not for my borrowed or limiting beliefs, not based on my past stories or even past failures or successes. They see me, and they hold me to the highest standard, my highest potential, and my nervous system gets excited in the best way. When I’m held in these safe containers, I also feel like I have the space to express myself authentically.

I don’t have to hold anything back or put on any show or be someone who I’m not in order to impress a mentor. Or not seem too this or not seem too that, or they’re going to trigger me again. Instead, the word that’s coming through is just expansion. When I am in a space where my nervous system can calm the fuck down, especially as a highly sensitive person. I start to realize the expansion and the potential available to me if I just say yes, especially when mentors invite you to take big moves. Maybe it’s raising your prices. Maybe it’s launching the thing that you felt like. It’s in those moments that having a safe support system has actually allowed me to say yes. I’m going to do it and I’m not going to back down. Verses being held in an unsafe or triggering container where you’re like, And you want me to what? I don’t know if that actually feels supportive to me right now. Notice how you feel when you read people’s content when you listen to their live streams right here on this podcast. What is the language? The vocabulary, the energy of the words that you hear these people speak.

And what does it make you feel? And if there’s a sensation in your body of coming home to yourself when you’re in the energy of somebody else, hire them as a mentor. There is probably a lot of room for expansion when you say yes.

Stop comparing yourself

Number five is stop comparing yourself. This speaks back to intuitive intelligence.

 

REST COMING SOON! I apologize, we had a little mishap with the rest of the transcript.

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November 5, 2021

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